Thrive More Than Survive


Do you ever feel like you need to survive every day? Do you sometimes think of just getting through a day?

If you have ADHD, it can be easy to feel this way daily. Putting too much pressure on yourself can cause trouble to organize things, create mistakes, lack focus, unfinished tasks, and emotional turmoil. So instead of getting yourself into survival mode, try thriving.

Surviving is a cycle most people are mistaken for life. These people don’t know that instead of surviving, there is a better way to live life and it is to THRIVE. On the other hand, thriving is a process of planning for the future, being the best version of yourself, creating experiences, and doing the most significant work that you should do.

“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” — Maya Angelou

Most people tend to just survive and not to truly live, and it is a mistake most of us are making. Living is much more important. In our everyday lives, doing our daily tasks has become a routine. We work and work and work on the same set of activities every day. Do you sometimes think of stopping for a while to truly reflect on the things that you do? If you don’t, maybe it’s time. I know you might lose focus when you stop right now, but hey, it is worth it. Think, and reflect on things. How can you still do your responsibility without risking living purposefully?

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The answer is to truly understand yourself: your wants, your needs, and your goals. Sometimes, having ADHD can be a burden to most of you, but getting to assess yourself and the things around you are what you need to do to fully live life. Getting to know yourself will lead you to concoct the experiences that you want to create.

There are times when just getting to know yourself can be hard. Especially when you’re putting pressure on yourself because you think of life as a race and feel like you are losing. Try to break down that feeling and start thinking that each of us has a different timeline and phase. Focus on the things that will help you build confidence, rather than thinking of things that will make you feel down and depressed. Here’s a tip or two for you: stop comparing, and let yourself grow.

Now that you are finally starting to build your confidence, I want you to know that you’re doing great. Thriving looks good on you. All there’s left for you to do is to enjoy. Yes, you read it right. Enjoy life. I know you have responsibilities waiting for you, and you still have to do that. You just have to give yourself time to enjoy the process. You can work, but you have to take care of your health too. Don’t overwhelm yourself with work; you can simplify things if you choose to.

Thriving and surviving are often being mistaken as the same words. These two words are the total opposite of each other. Surviving is stressing yourself out on how to get through the day. Thriving is doing things according to plan, with the flow, and with a positive outlook. Be the person you want to be without pressuring yourself, allow yourself to grow and make progress, and the most important thing is to always don a happy heart.

Having ADHD can sometimes keep you away from the will to live life fully, but you can always make a change. You just have to start.

Don’t just survive, THRIVE.

Michelle Raz is the founder of Raz Coaching & Thrivister and specializes in helping people thrive with executive function challenges. Read more at She is also the author of the book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.