Don’t Ask Us if We Are in Pain, We Are


With chronic pain usually comes family members, friends that are close to us, and even strangers who ask us if we are in pain. The truth is we are almost always in some sort of varying pain. Only rarely can the pain seem to disappear 100%. However, that is most likely due to the fact that we are at a pain level of 9 that a pain level of 2 feels like nothing.  In fact as many are probably reading this, you are at a 7 or 8 level of pain.

Those that suffer chronic pain usually have an invisible illness such as Endometriosis, Fibromyalgia, Migraines, Multiple Sclerosis, Arthritis, etc. Are pain isn’t visible so it’s hard for others to gauge how we are feeling at the moment.

But once again I’ll say it: We are almost always in pain

When you ask us when we are in pain the answer is YES we are but we don’t want to say that. Those that don’t suffer from a chronic pain disorder are probably wondering why we would ever say that we are not in pain. Well, the answer is simple. We don’t want to be viewed as constant complainers.

We want to have respect and sometimes not be treated differently. We want not to be seen as a complainer but as a warrior. Someone who is strong and can deal with their issues on their own if we choose to.

If you have Endometriosis I’m sure you’ve had glances down toward your abdominal area from curious eye’s that are trying to see your pain level.

If you have Migraines you’ve gotten gazes from friends/family at your head as wonder if you’re about to have one.

Fibromyalgia, Multiple Sclerosis and Arthritis Sufferers have probably gotten various parts of their body under what seems like a microscope.

From all of us chronic pain sufferers, we don’t want to be constantly looked at. We hate being studied by your eyes. We want to be treated normally and if there is an issue that we need your help on, we will ask.